Lose your fear of networking

June 19, 2008

Ljiljana came to my party last week and has agree to let me post her comment here. I think it has some useful lessons for those of us who fear networking ..

I was about to give up. I was thinking about writing an email saying that I was sorry but I couldn’t make it and then invent some reason. But I had already arranged everything: my mother-in-law had come to look after her grandson and my husband came home on time from his work and then the mother of our son’s friend came on time to fetch her child… so that I had no excuses left and could be on time for Jo’s Celebration in the centre of The Hague after all. I’m not very new in the city but it was my first expatriate party! And if I do not count family members’ birthdays it was my first party in the Netherlands ever. Before this party, I met Jo few times at Connecting Women. My first workshop at Connecting Woman was actually Jo’s lecture about networking, in February this year. What shall I say? I could hardly wait for the next meeting. At the third I decided to become a member and at the fourth I became the proud owner of Jo Parfitt’s book Career in your Suitcase (third edition!).
Still I was a bit nervous about going to the launch of her two lates books. Maybe it was just an accident, but at about that time I was on the page 112 of Career in your Suitcase and there is a part about Fear of Networking. It is strange to have that fear after many years in journalism, but new country, new language, losing a job… changes everything. I was also very curious. The fact that she is a journalist herself helped me be brave enough to go along. And than I said to myself: You are going to that party and everything will be alright and it will be special because it’s about Jo. And it was. I was at a place with a lot of other people who came from somewhere, who are trying to find a home far away from home and who know that nothing is going to be the some once they are back home. It’s SO good to know that your are not alone. And there is a comfort: it is not bad at all as long as people like Jo Parfitt are around. I’ve read somewhere that “the good book to read is not the one which thinks for you, but the one which makes you think”. Mind you, her books and speeches made me move!

Ljiljana Lelieveld Gogic

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One Response to “Lose your fear of networking”


  1. Great comment by Ljiljana. From personal experience, I know that with Jo’s inspiration and encouragement, many others in similar situations have reason to celebrate and benefit from having met Jo.


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